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来自Android客户端1楼2014-05-06 22:17回复


    来自Android客户端2楼2014-05-06 22:18
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      早安


      来自Android客户端3楼2014-05-07 05:52
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        玩好


        4楼2014-05-09 18:56
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          我喜欢有感而发 一个人的特别之处就在于他不特别 平凡还是持久美


          5楼2014-05-11 15:00
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            感觉被愚弄


            来自Android客户端6楼2014-05-17 18:31
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              无所事事 救救我


              7楼2014-06-30 09:03
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                英语背诵美文30篇
                第一篇:Youth 青春
                •第二篇: Three Days to See(Excerpts)假如给我三天光明(节选)
                •第三篇:Companionship of Books 以书为伴(节选)
                •第四篇:If I Rest, I Rust 如果我休息,我就会生锈
                •第五篇:Ambition 抱负
                •第六篇:What I have Lived for 我为何而生
                •第七篇:When Love Beckons You 爱的召唤
                •第八篇:The Road to Success 成功之道
                •第九篇:On Meeting the Celebrated 论见名人
                •第十篇:The 50-Percent Theory of Life 生活理论半对半
                •第十一篇:What is Your Recovery Rate? 你的恢复速率是多少?
                •第十二篇:Clear Your Mental Space 清理心灵的空间
                •第十三篇:Be Happy 快乐
                •第十四篇:The Goodness of life 生命的美好
                •第十五篇:Facing the Enemies Within 直面内在的敌人
                •第十六篇:Abundance is a Life Style 富足的生活方式
                •第十七篇:Human Life a Poem 人生如诗
                •第十八篇:Solitude 独处
                •第十九篇:Giving Life Meaning 给生命以意义
                •第二十篇:Relish the Moment 品位现在
                •第二十一篇:The Love of Beauty 爱美
                •第二十二篇:The Happy Door 快乐之门
                •第二十三篇:Born to Win 生而为赢
                •第二十四篇:Work and Pleasure 工作和娱乐
                •第二十五篇:Mirror, Mirror--What do I see镜子,镜子,告诉我
                •第二十六篇:On Motes and Beams 微尘与栋梁
                •第二十七篇:An October Sunrise 十月的日出
                •第二十八篇:To Be or Not to Be 生存还是毁灭
                •第二十九篇:Gettysburg Address 葛底斯堡演说
                •第三十篇:First Inaugural Address(Excerpts) 就职演讲(节选)


                8楼2014-07-06 20:42
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                  •第一篇:Youth 青春
                  Youth
                  Youth is not a time of life; it is a state of mind; it is not a matter of rosy cheeks, red lips and supple knees; it is a matter of the will, a quality of the imagination, a vigor of the emotions; it is the freshness of the deep springs of life.
                  Youth means a temperamental predominance of courage over timidity, of the appetite for adventure over the love of ease. This often exists in a man of 60 more than a boy of 20. Nobody grows old merely by a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals.
                  Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul. Worry, fear, self-distrust bows the heart and turns the spirit back to dust.
                  Whether 60 or 16, there is in every human being’s heart the lure of wonders, the unfailing appetite for what’s next and the joy of the game of living. In the center of your heart and my heart, there is a wireless station; so long as it receives messages of beauty, hope, courage and power from man and from the infinite, so long as you are young.
                  When your aerials are down, and your spirit is covered with snows of cynicism and the ice of pessimism, then you’ve grown old, even at 20; but as long as your aerials are up, to catch waves of optimism, there’s hope you may die young at 80.
                  译文:
                  青春
                  青春不是年华,而是心境;青春不是桃面、丹唇、柔膝,而是深沉的意志,恢宏的想象,炙热的恋情;青春是生命的深泉在涌流。
                  青春气贯长虹,勇锐盖过怯弱,进取压倒苟安。如此锐气,二十后生而有之,六旬男子则更多见。年岁有加,并非垂老,理想丢弃,方堕暮年。
                  岁月悠悠,衰微只及肌肤;热忱抛却,颓废必致灵魂。忧烦,惶恐,丧失自信,定使心灵扭曲,意气如灰。
                  无论年届花甲,拟或二八芳龄,心中皆有生命之欢乐,奇迹之诱惑,孩童般天真久盛不衰。人人心中皆有一台天线,只要你从天上人间接受美好、希望、欢乐、勇气和力量的信号,你就青春永驻,风华常存。 、
                  一旦天线下降,锐气便被冰雪覆盖,玩世不恭、自暴自弃油然而生,即使年方二十,实已垂垂老矣;然则只要树起天线,捕捉乐观信号,你就有望在八十高龄告别尘寰时仍觉年轻。


                  9楼2014-07-06 20:43
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                    •第四篇:If I Rest,I Rust 如果我休息,我就会生锈
                    If I Rest, I Rust
                    The significant inscription found on an old key---“If I rest, I rust”---would be an excellent motto for those who are afflicted with the slightest bit of idleness. Even the most industrious person might adopt it with advantage to serve as a reminder that, if one allows his faculties to rest, like the iron in the unused key, they will soon show signs of rust and, ultimately, cannot do the work required of them.
                    Those who would attain the heights reached and kept by great men must keep their faculties polished by constant use, so that they may unlock the doors of knowledge, the gate that guard the entrances to the professions, to science, art, literature, agriculture---every department of human endeavor.
                    Industry keeps bright the key that opens the treasury of achievement. If Hugh Miller, after toiling all day in a quarry, had devoted his evenings to rest and recreation, he would never have become a famous geologist. The celebrated mathematician, Edmund Stone, would never have published a mathematical dictionary, never have found the key to science of mathematics, if he had given his spare moments to idleness, had the little Scotch lad, Ferguson, allowed the busy brain to go to sleep while he tended sheep on the hillside instead of calculating the position of the stars by a string of beads, he would never have become a famous astronomer.
                    Labor vanquishes all---not inconstant, spasmodic, or ill-directed labor; but faithful, unremitting, daily effort toward a well-directed purpose. Just as truly as eternal vigilance is the price of liberty, so is eternal industry the price of noble and enduring success.
                    译文:
                    如果我休息,我就会生锈
                    在一把旧钥匙上发现了一则意义深远的铭文——如果我休息,我就会生锈。对于那些懒散而烦恼的人来说,这将是至理名言。甚至最为勤勉的人也以此作为警示:如果一个人有才能而不用,就像废弃钥匙上的铁一样,这些才能就会很快生锈,并最终无法完成安排给自己的工作。
                    有些人想取得伟人所获得并保持的成就,他们就必须不断运用自身才能,以便开启知识的大门,即那些通往人类努力探求的各个领域的大门,这些领域包括各种职业:科学,艺术,文学,农业等。
                    勤奋使开启成功宝库的钥匙保持光亮。如果休•米勒在采石场劳作一天后,晚上的时光用来休息消遣的话,他就不会成为名垂青史的地质学家。著名数学家爱德蒙•斯通如果闲暇时无所事事,就不会出版数学词典,也不会发现开启数学之门的钥匙。如果苏格兰青年弗格森在山坡上放羊时,让他那思维活跃的大脑处于休息状态,而不是借助一串珠子计算星星的位置,他就不会成为著名的天文学家。
                    劳动征服一切。这里所指的劳动不是断断续续的,间歇性的或方向偏差的劳动,而是坚定的,不懈的,方向正确的每日劳动。正如要想拥有自由就要时刻保持警惕一样,要想取得伟大的,持久的成功,就必须坚持不懈地努力。


                    12楼2014-07-06 20:44
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                      •第六篇:What I have Lived for 我为何而生
                      What I Have Lived For
                      Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge, and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind. These passions, like great winds, have blown me hither and thither, in a wayward course, over a deep ocean of anguish, reaching to the very verge of despair.
                      I have sought love, first, because it brings ecstasy---ecstasy so great that I would often have sacrificed all the rest of my life for a few hours for this joy. I have sought it, next, because it relieves loneliness---that terrible loneliness in which one shivering consciousness looks over the rim of the world into the cold unfathomable lifeless abyss. I have sought it, finally, because in the union of love I have seen, in a mystic miniature, the prefiguring vision of the heaven that saints and poets have imagined. This is what I sought, and though it might seem too good for human life, this is what---at last---I have found.
                      With equal passion I have sought knowledge. I have wished to understand the hearts of men. I have wished to know why the stars shine. And I have tried to apprehend the Pythagorean power by which number holds sway above the flux. A little of this, but not much, I have achieved.
                      Love and knowledge, so far as they were possible, led upward toward the heavens. But always it brought me back to earth. Echoes of cries of pain reverberate in my heart. Children in famine, victims tortured by oppressors, helpless old people a hated burden to their sons, and the whole world of loneliness, poverty, and pain make a mockery of what human life should be. I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot, and I too suffer.
                      This has been my life. I have found it worth living, and would gladly live it again if the chance were offered me.
                      译文:
                      我为何而生
                      我的一生被三种简单却又无比强烈的激情所控制:对爱的渴望,对知识的探索和对人类苦难难以抑制的屿。这些激情像狂风,把我恣情吹向四方,掠过苦痛的大海,迫使我濒临绝望的边缘。
                      我寻求爱,首先因为它使我心为之着迷,这种难以名状的美妙迷醉使我愿意用所有的余生去换取哪怕几个小时这样的幸福。我寻求爱,还因为它能缓解我心理上的孤独中,我感觉心灵的战栗,仿如站在世界的边缘而面前是冰冷,无底的死亡深渊。我寻求爱,因为在我所目睹的结合中,我仿佛看到了圣贤与诗人们所向往的天堂之景。这就是我所寻找的,虽然对人的一生而言似乎有些遥不可及,但至少是我用尽一生所领悟到的。
                      我用同样的激情去寻求知识。我希望能理解人类的心灵,希望能够知道群星闪烁的缘由。我试图领悟毕达哥拉斯所景仰的“数即万物”的思想。我已经悟出了其中的一点点道理,尽管并不是很多。
                      爱和知识,用它们的力量把人引向天堂。但是同情却总把人又拽回到尘世中来。痛苦的呼喊声回荡在我的内心。饥饿的孩子,受压迫的难民,贫穷和痛苦的世界,都是对人类所憧憬的美好生活的无情嘲弄。我渴望能够减少邪恶,但是我无能为力,我也难逃其折磨。
                      这就是我的一生。我已经找到它的价值。而且如果有机会,我很愿意能再活它一次。


                      14楼2014-07-06 20:45
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                        •第七篇:When Love Beckons You 爱的召唤
                        When Love Beckons You
                        When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you, yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you, believe in him, though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
                        For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to our roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
                        But if, in your fear, you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor, into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears. Love gives naught but it self and takes naught but from itself. Love possesses not, nor would it be possessed, for love is sufficient unto love.
                        Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself. But if you love and must have desires, let these be your desires:
                        To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
                        To know the pain of too much tenderness.
                        To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
                        And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
                        To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
                        To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
                        To return home at eventide with gratitude;
                        And then to sleep with a payer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
                        译文:
                        爱的召唤
                        当爱召唤你时,请追随她,尽管爱的道路艰难险峻。当爱的羽翼拥抱你时,请顺从她,尽管隐藏在其羽翼之下的剑可能会伤到你。当爱向你诉说时,请相信她,尽管她的声音可能打破你的梦想,就如同北风吹落花园里所有的花瓣。
                        爱会给你戴上桂冠,也会折磨你。爱会助你成长,也会给你修枝。爱会上升到枝头,抚爱你在阳光下颤动力的嫩枝,也会下潜至根部,撼动力你紧抓泥土的根基。
                        但是,如果你在恐惧之中只想寻求爱的平和与快乐,那你就最好掩盖真实的自我,避开爱的考验,进入不分季节的世界,在那里你将欢笑,但并非开怀大笑,你将哭泣,但并非尽情地哭。爱只将自己付出,也只得到自己。爱一无所有,也不会为谁所有,因为爱本身就已自足。
                        爱除了实现自我别无他求。但是如果你爱而又不得不有所求,那就请期望:
                        将自己融化并像奔流的溪水一般向夜晚吟唱自己优美的曲调。
                        明了过多的温柔所带来的苦痛。
                        被自己对爱的理解所伤害;
                        并情愿快乐地悲伤。
                        在黎明带着轻快的心醒来并感谢又一个有家的日子;
                        在黄昏怀着感恩之心回家;
                        然后为内心所爱之人祈祷,吟唱赞美之歌,并带着祷告和歌声入眠。


                        15楼2014-07-06 20:45
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                          •第十篇:The 50-Percent Theory of Life 生活理论半对半
                          The 50-Percent Theory of Life
                          I believe in the 50-percent theory. Half the time things are better than normal; the other half, they re worse. I believe life is a pendulum swing. It takes time and experience to understand what normal is, and that gives me the perspective to deal with the surprises of the future.
                          Let’s benchmark the parameters: yes, I will die. I’ve dealt with the deaths of both parents, a best friend, a beloved boss and cherished pets. Some of these deaths have been violent, before my eyes, or slow and agonizing. Bad stuff, and it belongs at the bottom of the scale.
                          Then there are those high points: romance and marriage to the right person; having a child and doing those Dad things like coaching my son’s baseball team, paddling around the creek in the boat while he’s swimming with the dogs, discovering his compassion so deep it manifests even in his kindness to snails, his imagination so vivid he builds a spaceship from a scattered pile of Legos.
                          But there is a vast meadow of life in the middle, where the bad and the good flip-flop acrobatically. This is what convinces me to believe in the 50-percent theory.
                          One spring I planted corn too early in a bottomland so flood-prone that neighbors laughed. I felt chagrined at the wasted effort. Summer turned brutal---the worst heat wave and drought in my lifetime. The air-conditioned died; the well went dry; the marriage ended; the job lost; the money gone. I was living lyrics from a country tune---music I loathed. Only a surging Kansas City Royals team buoyed my spirits.
                          Looking back on that horrible summer, I soon understood that all succeeding good things merely offset the bad. Worse than normal wouldn’t last long. I am owed and savor the halcyon times. The reinvigorate me for the next nasty surprise and offer assurance that can thrive. The 50-percent theory even helps me see hope beyond my Royals’ recent slump, a field of struggling rookies sown so that some year soon we can reap an October harvest.
                          For that on blistering summer, the ground moisture was just right, planting early allowed pollination before heat withered the tops, and the lack of rain spared the standing corn from floods. That winter my crib overflowed with corn---fat, healthy three-to-a-stalk ears filled with kernels from heel to tip---while my neighbors’ fields yielded only brown, empty husks.
                          Although plantings past may have fallen below the 50-percent expectation, and they probably will again in the future, I am still sustained by the crop that flourishes during the drought.
                          译文:
                          生活理论半对半
                          我信奉对半理论。生活时而无比顺畅,时而倒霉透顶。我觉得生活就像来回摆的钟摆。读懂生活的常态需要时间和阅历,而读懂它也练就了我面对未来的生活态度。
                          让我们确定一下好坏的标准:是的,我注定会死去。我已经经历了双亲,一位好友,一位敬爱的老板和心爱宠物的死亡。有些突如其来,近在眼前,有些却缓慢痛苦。这些都是糟糕的事情,它们属于最坏的部分。
                          生活中也不乏高潮:坠入爱河缔结良缘;身为人父养育幼子,诸如训练指导儿子的棒球队,当他和狗在小河中嬉戏时摇桨划船,感受他如此强烈的同情心-即使对蜗牛也善待有加,发现他如此丰富的想象力-即使用零散的乐高玩具积木也能堆出太空飞船。
                          但在生活最好与最坏部分之间有一片巨大的中间地带,其间各种好事坏事像耍杂技一样上下翻滚,轮番出现。这就是让我信服对半理论的原因。
                          有一年奏,我在一块洼地上过早地种上了玉米。那块地极易遭到水淹,所以邻居们都嘲笑我。我为浪费了精力而感到懊恼。没想到夏天更为残酷-我经历了最糟糕的热浪和干旱。空调坏了,进干了,婚姻破裂了,工作丢了,钱也没有。我正经历着某首乡村歌曲中描绘的情节,我讨厌这种音乐,只有刚出道不久的堪萨斯皇家棒球队能鼓舞我的精神。
                          回首那个糟糕的夏天,我很快就明白了,所有后来出现的好事只不过与坏事相互抵消。比一般情况糟糕的境遇不会延宕过久;而太平时光是我应得的,我要尽情享受,它们为我注入活力以应对下一个险情,并确保我可以兴旺发达。对半理论甚至帮助我在堪萨斯皇家棒球队最近的低潮中看到希望-这是一快艰难行进的新手们耕耘的土地,只要播种了,假以时日我们就可以收获十月的金秋。
                          那个夏天天气酷热,地而湿度适宜,提早播种就可以在热浪打蔫植尖之前完成授粉,同于干旱更没有爆发洪水,产在田里的玉米得以保存。因此那个冬天我的粮仓堆满了玉米-丰满,健康,一颗三穗且从头到脚都是饱满的玉米粒的玉米穗-而我的邻居们收获的只是晒黑的空壳。
                          尽管过去的播种可能没有达到50%的收获期望,而且将来也可能是这样,但我仍然能靠着在旱季繁茂生长的庄稼而生存下去。


                          18楼2014-07-06 20:46
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                            •第十一篇:What is Your Recovery Rate? 你的恢复速率是多少?
                            What is Your Recovery Rate?
                            What is your recovery rate? How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviors that upset you? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? The longer it takes you to recover, the more influence that incident has on your actions, and the less able you are to perform to your personal best. In a nutshell, the longer it takes you to recover, the weaker you are and the poorer your performance.
                            You are well aware that you need to exercise to keep the body fit and, no doubt, accept that a reasonable measure of health is the speed in which your heart and respiratory system recovers after exercise. Likewise the faster you let go of an issue that upsets you, the faster you return to an equilibrium, the healthier you will be. The best example of this behavior is found with professional sportspeople. They know that the faster they can forget an incident or missd opportunity and get on with the game, the better their performance. In fact, most measure the time it takes them to overcome and forget an incident in a game and most reckon a recovery rate of 30 seconds is too long!
                            Imagine yourself to be an actor in a play on the stage. Your aim is to play your part to the best of your ability. You have been given a script and at the end of each sentence is a ful stop. Each time you get to the end of the sentence you start a new one and although the next sentence is related to the last it is not affected by it. Your job is to deliver each sentence to the best of your ability.
                            Don’t live your life in the past! Learn to live in the present, to overcome the past. Stop the past from influencing your daily life. Don’t allow thoughts of the past to reduce your personal best. Stop the past from interfering with your life. Learn to recover quickly.
                            Remember: Rome wasn’t built in a day. Reflect on your recovery rate each day. Every day before you go to bed, look at your progress. Don’t lie in bed saying to you, “I did that wrong.” “I should have done better there.” No. look at your day and note when you made an effort to place a full stop after an incident. This is a success. You are taking control of your life. Remember this is a step by step process. This is not a make-over. You are undertaking real change here. Your aim: reduce the time spent in recovery.
                            The way forward?
                            Live in the present. Not in the precedent.
                            译文:
                            你的恢复速率是多少?
                            你的恢复速率是多少?你需要多长时间才能从让你烦恼的行为中恢复?几分钟?几小时?几天?几星期?你需要的恢复时间越长,那个事件对你的影响越大,你也就越不能做到最好。简言之,你的恢复时间越长,你就越软弱,你的表现也就越差劲。
                            你充分意识到,要保持身体健康你需要锻炼,并且你无疑会接受,你的心脏和呼吸系统在锻炼后的恢复速度是衡量健康的一个合理尺度。同样,你越快摆脱使你烦恼的问题,越快恢复平静,你就越健康。此类行为的最好典范是专业运动员。他们知道,越快忘记一件事或失去的机会而好好比赛,他们的发挥就越好。实际上,大多数运动员会佰自己克服并忘记比赛中一个事件所需的时间,而且大多数人都认为30秒的恢复时间太长了!
                            想象自己是一位站在舞台上的戏剧赏。你的目标是尽全力扮演好你的角色。你已经拿到了剧本,而剧本中的每句话都以句号结尾。每次你念到一个句子的末尾,你就会开始一个新的句子。尽管下一句和上一句有关联,但并不受它的影响。你的工作是尽力说好每句台词。
                            不要生活在过去!要学会生活在现在,学会克服过去;不要让过去影响你的日常生活;不要让过去的思想妨碍你做到最好;不要让过去干扰你的生活;学会快速恢复。
                            记住,罗马不是一日建成的。每天都反思自己的恢复速率;每天上床睡觉前,都看看自己的进步;不要躺在床上对自己说:“我那个做错了。”“我应该做到更好。”不要那样做;回想自己的一天,并注意努力给某个事件画上句号的时刻。这就是一个成功,你在控制自己的生活。记住这是一个循序渐进的过程。这不是简单的修修补补。你正在进行的是真正的改变,你的目标是减少用在恢复上的时间。
                            将来该怎么做呢?
                            生活在现在,而不是从前。


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                              •第十二篇:Clear Your Mental Space 清理心灵的空间
                              Clear Your Mental Space
                              Think about the last time you felt a negative emotion---like stress, anger, or frustration. What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity? Was your mind cluttered with thoughts? Or was it paralyzed, unable to think?
                              The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time, or you feel angry or frustrated, stop. Yes, that’s right, stop. Whatever you’re doing, stop and sit for one minute. While you’re sitting there, completely immerse yourself in the negative emotion.
                              Allow that emotion to consume you. Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion. Don’t cheat yourself here. Take the entire minute---but only one minute---to do nothing else but feel that emotion.
                              When the minute is over, ask yourself, “Am I wiling to keep holding on to this negative emotion as I go through the rest of the day?”
                              Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed in the emotion and really fell it, you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly.
                              If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer, that is OK. Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion.
                              When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion, ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day. If not, take a deep breath. As you exhale, release all that negativity with your breath.
                              This exercise seems simple---almost too simple. But, it is very effective. By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt, you are dealing with the emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not to feel it. You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs. When you immerse yourself in the emotion, and realize that it is only emotion, it loses its control. You can clear your head and proceed with your task.
                              Try it. Next time you’re in the middle of a negative emotion, give yourself the space to feel the emotion and see what happens. Keep a piece of paper with you that says the following:
                              Stop. Immerse for one minute. Do I want to keep this negativity? Breath deep, exhale, release. Move on!
                              This will remind you of the steps to the process. Remember; take the time you need to really immerse yourself in the emotion. Then, when you feel you’ve felt it enough, release it---really let go of it. You will be surprised at how quickly you can move on from a negative situation and get to what you really want to do!
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                              清理心灵的空间
                              想下你最近一次感受到的消极情绪,例如压力,愤怒或挫折。当你处于那种消极情绪时你在想些什么?是充满了混乱的思绪?还是陷于麻木,无法思考?
                              下次当你发现自己处于非常紧张的状态时,或是你感到气愤或受挫时,停下来。是的,对,停下来。不管你在做什么,停下来坐上一分钟。坐着的时候,让自己完全沉浸在那种消极情绪之中。
                              让那种消极情绪吞噬你,给自己一分钟的时间去真切地体会那种情绪,不要欺骗自己。花整整一分钟的时间 – 但只有一分钟 – 去体会那种情绪,别的什么也不要做。
                              当一分钟结束时,问自己:“我是否想在今天余下的时间里继续保持这种消极情绪?”
                              一旦你允许自己完全沉浸在那种情绪当中并真切体会到它,你就会惊奇地发现那种情绪很快就消失了。
                              如果你觉得还需要点时间来保持那种情绪,没关系,再给自己一分钟的时间去体会它。
                              如果你觉得自己已经充分体会了那种情绪,那就问自己是否愿意在今天余下的时间里继续保持这种消极情绪。如果不愿意,那就深呼吸。呼气的时候,把所有的消极情绪都释放出去。
                              这个方法似乎很简单 – 几乎是太过简单了,但却非常有效。通过给自己空间真正体会消极情绪,你是在处理这种情绪,而不是将其压制下去然后尽量不加理会。通过给予消极情绪所需的空间和关注,你实际上是在消解其力量。当你沉浸在那种情绪之中,并且明白它只是一种情绪时,你就摆脱了它的控制。你可以清理头脑并继续做事。
                              你下次笼罩消极情绪时,试一下这种做法,给自己一点空间来体会那种情绪并看看会发生什么。随身带一张写着如下字句的纸条:
                              停下来。沉浸一分钟。我想保持这种消极情绪吗?深吸气,呼气,放松。继续做事!
                              这会提醒你该怎样去做。记住,要花你所需要的时间去真正沉浸于那种情绪之中。然后,当你感到自己已经充分体会到了它。你会惊奇地发现,你很快就能摆脱消极情绪,并开始做你真正想做的事情!


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